Trans Advent, door four

[jackironsides]

My parents had friends around for dinner tonight. Two of them, R & J, I'd met before I came out. One, Monica, a lovely woman from Berlin, I'd never met. I was fairly sure that R & J hadn't been told I was transitioning, but Monica had never met me before! Maybe she'd guess my gender correctly; who knows.

It was a pretty nice evening. And then, just before they all left, Monica told me that she thought the enormous picture my parents have on the living room wall was a good one of me. It was taken about six months before I came out, and I am dressed in high-femme mode, with lipstick and a sundress.

I had forgotten it was even there.

I can't express the crushing feeling I had from this one well-meaning complement. I don't know how it came across to Monica. I don't know if I managed to say something polite.

I really wish my parents would take those fucking pictures down.

Comments

[dendriteblues]

I'm so sorry that happened. Old pictures really are the worst, and after an evening that was going so well too. :(

For what it's worth time does help. You start to look so different that new friends see the old pictures and go "Who the hell standing next to your mom? I didn't know you had a sister."

I know it's a cliche, but things get better. I hope you have a better day today.

[lou2]

<3 I am sorry for the pain your parents caused.